[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with greyscale and purple alternating. Foreground is a photo of an axolotl. Top text reads “Asexual? Demisexual? Gray-A?”. Bottom text reads “Doesn’t matter; had cake”. End description.]

[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with greyscale and purple alternating. Foreground is a photo of an axolotl. Top text reads “Asexual? Demisexual? Gray-A?”. Bottom text reads “Doesn’t matter; had cake”. End description.]

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Anonymous asked: I'm not asexual,but I wear a black ring on my right middle finger. It's kinda like a weird polished black stone ring It was given to me by my father and I have always worn it on that finger. Mostly because I'm right handed, and also because rings just don't feel right on any of my other fingers. My questions is, if you saw me wearing my ring, thought I was asexual, then found out I wasn't. Would that make you dislike me? Would you be offended? Would you try to convince me to stop wearing it?

I can’t speak for everyone, but I wouldn’t be offended or mad or dislike you at all! I’ve heard (from the interwebs) that some members of the LGBT community wear rainbows to increase their visibility; but if a straight person wears a rainbow because they like it, or it has a strong personal meaning (like your ring does, as a gift from your father), I can’t imagine anyone being mad. 

Now, if you’re doing it to try and pass as asexual to lure people into some sort of asexuality-based trap, then I’d be a little miffed. But that doesn’t sound like what you’re doing. :)

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Anonymous asked: I don't get it, axolotls aren't asexual, did you just pick it cause of the alliteration??

We were initially an asexual armadillo, because one species of armadillo uses something akin to asexual reproduction to make twins (that’s a poor explanation, I know). But then I found out about English Major Armadillo, so we had an open vote about another animal that the Ace community would generally like to see, and axolotl won!

I don’t think it’s too weird that it’s not actually asexual, in the same way that a lioness is probably not a linguist (see Linguistic Lioness) or most armadillos are probably not English majors. Probably. 

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alexacadia asked: hi :) i was wondering if you knew of any demisexual memes like this one? LOVE the idea by the way, i'm excited to see it!

I haven’t seen any, myself … I know there’s an aromantic aardvark, maybe we need a demisexual friend!

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Anonymous asked: where can you get one of the asexual rings?

I got my rings as a set of 3 from Etsy. They’re also available on Amazon, eBay, and other big retail sites. 

Anyone else have some good sites to recommend for rings?

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[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with greyscale and purple alternating. Foreground is a photo of an axolotl. Top text reads “Trade coming-out horror stories with bi friend”. Bottom text reads “Get exact same stupid comments”. End description.]

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40000bees asked: hey i just found out about this meme from the asexual experiences : ) very cool to see a meme animals about this ! I never knew there was one

So glad you found us!

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Anonymous asked: To the person asking about fertility I saw a news piece about girls who get a guy (who gives up all rights to any child born from this) to put sperm in a cup (similar to what you get at a doctor's office for drug test). The woman then "pours" the sperm into herself and waits and hopes. I'm sure if you google it you can find more information but since I can't put links this is the best I can do. :)

Definitely worth looking up!

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ellietheasexylibrarian asked: I was wondering, do you or any of your followers know how difficult it is for aces to get help with fertility stuff? I am somewhere between ace and demi and (though i don't plan on it now) might some day want kids. i also would really rather not have to go through with actual sex. and while adoption is an option, i kinda think i would want one of my own. any thoughts?

Wow, you know, I actually have no idea. Does anyone out there have any experience with alternative options for getting pregnant?

Asexual porn movie

And in the part where the lead actress in her slinky negligee asks him if he’d like to come into the kitchen for coffee afterwards, she actually does make a pot of coffee and asks him about his wife and kids. It’s lovely.

[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with greyscale and purple alternating. Foreground is a photo of an axolotl. Top text reads “Dating an asexual”. Bottom text reads “Pretty sure they’re not just in it for the sex”. End description.]

[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with greyscale and purple alternating. Foreground is a photo of an axolotl. Top text reads “Dating an asexual”. Bottom text reads “Pretty sure they’re not just in it for the sex”. End description.]

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isleepingraves asked: I didn't know there was another asexual meme, but I shall post your message so other people can find yours too :)

Thanks! Kudos to Asexual Sponge!